May 17, 2018

6 easy tips to keep the physical intimacy in marriage alive

Oh, what a wonderful world it would be if we could all freely and healthily enjoy the wonders of great physical intimacy in marriage. Our marriages would be exciting and strong, we’d be walking with a spring in our step, and we’d all feel loved and supported.

Unfortunately, that utopian perspective is preserved for the few, and can sometimes be fleeting.  Just as marriage requires work and effort to remain strong and magical, so does the physical intimacy in marriage too.

So to help you keep your physical intimacy in tip-top shape, we’ve compiled a list of some of the best tips for maintaining physical intimacy in your marriage.

1. Practice loving kindness
It’s so easy when you are going through the motions of everyday life to forget to be continuously kind and loving toward your Husband or Wife.  Sometimes we even project hostile energy out towards our spouses, without even realizing that we are doing it and that’s the fast track toward creating distance in a marriage! 

When you consciously practice loving-kindness toward your spouse, you are reminding yourself to cherish them and to be grateful for them.  And when you are loving and kind, and you cherish your partner you create an incredible space for physical intimacy in marriage to grow more and more, each day.

2. Make time for each other
A quick rumble between the sheets before you pass out after a hard day’s work might be the ticket sometimes,  but if it becomes a habit, the sense physical intimacy in your marriage will slide in the wrong direction. And before you know it, that quick rumble becomes a chore (and who wants that?!).

Take time to spend time with each other, even if it’s only for a few hours one day per week.  Make that time sacred and dedicate yourselves to focusing on each other during that time. Hold hands, look into each other’s eyes, savor each other.  So that the sense of physical intimacy in marriage remains strong in yours.

3. Make non-sexual physical touching a priority
Touch has a way of speaking volumes in a relationship.   It can enhance the intimacy, or it can create a distance (if there is a lack of loving touches).  Make an effort to consciously touch each other lovingly, and you will quickly and easily take your relationship to another level. 

It doesn’t take a lot of time and effort to kiss your partner on the head, hug them, hold hands, or to look deeply into their eyes.  Even a squeeze of the shoulder from your spouse when one of you is dealing with something challenging is reassuring and intimate.

ake time to include these little accents of touch within your marriage.  Cuddle before you sleep, sit close together, touch each other and keep it up.  Non-sexual physical contact enhances the experience of physical intimacy in marriage because it provides non-vocal love and assurance. And the best thing about it is that it can even occur on the busiest of days!

4. Stand by your partner
Compliment your partner in front of others, and have their back always.  If you don’t agree with something they have said or done, discuss it privately and never share your relationship, or your partner’s secrets with anybody.  Where possible don’t discuss your intimate relationship with others, keep it sacred and make your partner sacred. This will make your intimacy and trust levels skyrocket, and the stronger sense of intimacy and trust will undoubtedly enhance the physical intimacy between you.

5. Take care of yourself
Remember the effort you went to when you first went out on a date with your spouse?  How you took time to take care of all of your grooming needs? How you carefully chose what to wear, and how you always made sure that you wore cologne or perfume?

We are not suggesting that you spend hours making yourself look and smell amazing for your Husband or Wife, but we are suggesting that you maintain yourself.  And you allow your partner to see you looking and feeling great frequently, even if it’s not all of the time. It will keep the spirit and attraction alive in your relationship and will contribute to a strong sense of physical intimacy in your marriage.

6. Express gratitude toward each other
We know that it’s easy to take each other for granted, especially after years of marriage, busy careers, and a few children.  But it’s important to remember to find the gratitude for each other and for your relationship and your life together.

When you are grateful for something, you don’t want to risk letting it go, and when it’s a person who you are thankful for, the love and good vibes will flow even if it isn’t verbally spoken.  And talking of unspoken communication, this gratitude will add to the physical intimacy in your marriage like a dream!